This won’t make sense if you haven’t read the earlier post from today….
Hubby and I were talking about everything and have basically decided this situation is one of the dangers of a large OB/Gyn/midwife practice. Until now, having 8 or 9 doctors, 4 midwives, 4 or 5 nurse practioners, a zillion medical assistants, 3 or 4 regular ultrasound techs, plus as-needed agency techs, plus the office staff, and two different locations all these people rotate around hasn’t been an issue. Suddenly, it became an issue. We feel there was a lot of miscommunication on several levels, including the thing I can’t talk about (I could, I just can’t).
We realize humans make mistakes. But we will not allow this particular office to make any future mistakes with me. So after my follow-up, I will be looking for a new careprovider. I have no clue if my future holds any more children (right now I can’t imagine…), but if it does I will do things very differently.
I guess I am sharing all this as a type of warning to be on top of your care, be your own best advocate, and ask questions. And never underestimate the importance of consistent care, if you have a shred of control over it.
P.S. I think I am entering the angry stages…
Gretchen,
Unfortunately, we can relate to you a bit on this one. In our case, it wasn’t simply a matter of miscommunication, it was more a case of complete lack of concern where there should have been some(at least in my opinion).
With our last child, my wife went into labor at 11:00pm one night, about 6 weeks before her due date. She was admitted to the hospital, and hooked up to the fetal heartbeat monitor, where they kept an eye on her until doctor showed up. Seven and a half hours later.
Not only was his lack of concern a bit alarming, but the fact that he didn’t even try to stop her labor. Our daughter was born at 9:35am, and immediately whisked off to the NICU, where she spent the next three weeks.
We felt so strongly about this that when we discovered we were expecting number four, we immediately set to finding a better doctor, and ironically, the one we found works in the same office as the other one. But the difference has been night and day so far.
You are in our prayers and thoughts; may the LORD’s peace be with you.
I’m so sorry. I’ll say a prayer for your peace.
Wow, Russ! With our fourth baby, I started having contractions at 35 weeks, went to the hospital, and they gave me terbutiline (sp?) shots—there was *no way* they were going to let him be born yet. It is terrible how flippant the doctor was about your situation.
I am glad you found someone you can both trust this time around.
Thank you, Lisa. I’ve been thinking about this all day (all weekend, really, which has made for a lovely holiday) and I know I can’t dwell on it.
I’m sorry, Mopsy.
I agree with you. I can’t like big practises
I agree I never liked big practices. I had a large practice with both of my kids and they just didn’t seem to care. I am lucky to have found a nice-one woman show. Keeping you in my thoughts.
We had similar concerns with our 3rd pgcy and subsequent m/c. Then TTC our SP. I have my thoughts/concerns now TTC #3, but I am also afraid to go elsewhere. That would mean delivering at a different hospital. Our practices (OB/Ped/GP) have gotten very big lately. They use to be the little local groups for the local hospital, but a good OB leads to many kids at the Ped, etc. Wishing you peace.